The most important habit you can develop to become more resilient is this: Practice resilience.
Resilience isn’t really something that you are. It’s something that you do over and over again as a habit.
We all move in and out of resilience cycles. Sometimes we feel empowered. Sometimes we feel disempowered.
The difference is this: The people who make...
Oftentimes, when children are failing in some area, they do not see the long-term repercussions. They are unkind to their siblings because they do not see that the years of taunting will turn into a long-term failed relationship.They fail at school because they cannot connect the dots between homework, getting into college, and getting a dream job.
As parents, we often want to lecture them: "You have to do your homework! Be nice to your little brother!"
But if we can take a step back and genuinely, curiously, ask them to explain their plans, we transfer responsibility to them, and we begin the process of empowering them to make choices and live with the outcomes of these choices.
So we might ask: "What's your plan with respect to your relationship with your little brother? I don't think he's going to like you very much if you keep this up, so tell me what you see happening. When you are adults, and we plan a family vacation, what does that look like? Is it fun? Or is your brother...