When was the last time you allowed someone to change your mind?
You were set on your way of thinking, sure you were “right,” but something the other person said helped you see things differently. When was the last time that happened?
If you can name an example quickly, congratulations—you’re remarkably open-minded. If not, you’re like most of us. Let’s be honest: It’s hard to loosen our grip on being “right” and truly consider another perspective.
But here’s the surprising part: changing your mind feels good.
We think “losing” an argument will feel bad, but the energy of shifting to a new perspective often feels better than the energy of resistance.
A client recently shared how she’d been losing sleep for months, worrying about whether a family member would help her financially. She believed the consequences of a “no” would be devastating.
When her family member finally said, “No,” she was surprised at her response. Instead of spiraling into resentment, she realized she could handle it. The relief of no longer being stuck in limbo—hoping and fearing over something out of her control—empowered her to take action.
She changed her mind about what the "no" meant for her, and it transformed her story. Rather than holding onto bitterness, she chose empowerment instead. Today, she’s proud of her resourcefulness and her ability to navigate the challenge.
Here’s the truth: There’s always a better-feeling way to think about something, whether it’s in an argument or a tough situation. If the goal is to feel empowered, it’s worth leaning into thoughts that move you in that direction.
Is there something keeping you up at night? A resentment you’re holding onto? What would it feel like to change your mind—and take your power back?