Welcome to Mindset Moments™
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A community-wide program that builds character, resilience and relationships one short conversation at a time
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Sign up above
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Get the "MacDermott Method" app (iphone or android)
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Watch the "How to Use Mindset Moments™" video further down this page
From the Classroom to the Dinner Table
The MacDermott Method Mindset Moments™ program combines character education and resilience training in a format that builds connection between students, educators and parents and promotes a sense of belonging throughout the entire school community—from the classroom to the sports field to the dinner table.
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​Finally, a program that includes parents!
Motivating Minds. Molding Futures.
Mindset Matters
​Our mindset—how we think about ourselves and our ability to have a positive impact in our own lives and in the world—either sets us up for success or limits our ability to achieve our potential.
Through “Skill of the Week” conversation prompts students engage in short, small group conversations that invite them to reflect on the aspects of character, relationships and resilience that help them build empowered mindsets, create strong support systems and be responsible members of their communities.
Making School Cultures More Open and Safe
Join us as we engage in a powerful new program that not only teaches resilience and builds character but also fosters authentic connection by getting people talking to each other in ways that matter.
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In only 10-15 minutes per week, organizations can create a culture of good communicators and identify students who are struggling and need more intensive resources.
When people are better communicators the community is safer—individuals reach out for help when they need it (for themselves), they talk to caring adults when they are worried about another student, and they directly address students they are worried about rather than avoiding them.
Watch this 3-minute video​
to learn how easy it is to implement Mindset Moments™.
An Evidence-Based Curriculum
Hi, I'm Kristin MacDermott. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, resilience expert, and creator of the MacDermott Method.
Mindset Moments™ is based on a resilience-training curriculum that has been validated in 4 studies with researchers from The Duke Clinical Research Institute, published in peer-reviewed journals, and proven to promote clinically significant improvement in key mental health and resilience measures, including distress, anxiety, depression, PTSD, and self-efficacy.
Versions of the curriculum have been used by a diverse array of organizations, including Navy SEALs, the LAPD, 20 hospitals across the country, including Duke Health and the National Institutes of Health, the National Guard, and the Veterans Administration, and they have been funded by The National Cancer Institute, Navy SEAL Family Foundation, Pfizer, Genentech, Amgen, Livestrong, Duke Cancer Institute, Colorado Health Foundation, Women’s Cancer Research Fund, the Aspen Center for Integral Health, Susan G. Komen Foundation, the National Comprehensive Cancer Network, and the Annenberg Foundation.
Our mission is to bring resilience-training to every child in America through our mentoring and parenting programs. In doing so, I hope to not only empower the children but also strengthen their families.​
Everything you need in the palm of your hand
No training or preparation necessary!
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We provide "Skill of the Week" conversation prompts that not only build character and resilience but also build connection.
When students have open, authentic, meaningful conversations with caring adults, peers, and their parents it fosters a sense of belonging and creates a culture of caring and of good communicators.
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Mentors & Parents,
Watch this before you use Mindset Moments™
One more 3-minute video is all it takes to get started!
The MacDermott Method resilience model builds an empowered mindset by developing skills across eight categories. These categories of skills can generally be understood to relate to character, relationships and resilience as follows:
Character: Who am I?
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What are my personal strengths?
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What are my personal values?
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What do I believe about myself, my worth, and my place in the world?
Relationships: How will I show up in my relationships and in my community?
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Do I have the interpersonal skills to develop and maintain supportive relationships?
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Can I balance my needs with the needs of others?
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How do my beliefs shape how I show up in relationships and the community?
Resilience: How will I overcome challenges and adversity?
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Do I have the emotional intelligence to take care of myself?
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Can I use mind/body awareness and skills to take care of myself?
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Can I trust my own inner wisdom to make good decisions?
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Do I get inspiration from connection to something bigger than myself, whether that’s nature, community, or spirituality?
Help Us Create A Resilience Ripple!
Together we can break the cycle of disconnection and disempowerment by starting a new kind of conversation.
The more adults in your child’s life having character and resilience-building conversations with them, the better.
Let's take the conversation out of the classroom, onto the field, and home
to the dinner table!
How to Use
When you receive the "Skill of the Week," simply:
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PROJECT the skill or pass your phone
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READ the "Read-Aloud" section
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ASK one of the questions
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LISTEN and invite all students to share
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SHARE something that makes you relatable
Project The Skill or Pass Your Phone
It's helpful for students to see the GIF as the visual helps them internalize the skill. So, if you're in school, project the skill onto the white board. If you're on a sports field, turn or pass your phone around.
Read the "Read Aloud" Section
Seriously, just read it word for word to the kids. Or better yet, have a student read it aloud. The goal is to get to the questions and start a conversation, so just read the top section verbatim.
Ask One of the Questions
The questions are not difficult or too personal, there are no right or wrong answers, and there is enough information in the Read Aloud section for everyone to be able to participate and add something to the conversation.
Listen and Invite All Students to Share
The role of the adult "mentor" is to:
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be fully present
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demonstrate good listening
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create an environment where all students feel safe to share
Again, the questions are softball questions about which everyone who is listening can find something to say.
And the truth is, the students are already resilient in many ways. They just might not know it, know the name for it, or understand how important it is.
Share Something that Makes You Relatable
After you've heard what the kids have to say, you are invited to share something about yourself. It is an opportunity to connect with your students on a human level. It is not a requirement and you don't have to get too personal, but having relationships with caring adults is a highly protective resilience factor for young people. And meaningful connection is experienced when we have the courage to be real and even vulnerable.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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Do you really mean to read it verbatim? Should I put it into my own words?
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Yes, seriously, just read it. The goal is to get to the questions. No need to put it into your own words, as that takes precious time away from the conversation.
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How much time should each conversation take?
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10-15 minutes is the minimum for a group conversation, though some organizations allot more time. Parents can have one-on-one conversations in much shorter time.
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How many students should be in a conversation?
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Ideally, the group size won't be larger than 12-15 students per mentor. This ensures that no one can "hide." The goal is for everyone to participate.
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How does the program help organizations identify students who need a more intensive level of resources?
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Keeping the group size small allows mentors to know which students are not engaging, so they can follow up with those students and offer more resources.
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How many of the questions should I ask?
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Sometimes the whole time can be filled with one conversation prompt. Other times you might get through several of them.
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What should I share? It's totally up to you.
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Keep in mind, though, that we bond through our vulnerability, and it's powerful for students to hear that the authority figures in their lives had struggled with some of the same challenges they face.
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Who can be a "mentor?"
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Educators, coaches, counselors, advisors, and even older students who have been through the program can facilitate the conversations. We call them mentors because they are acting as a supportive advocate as opposed to "teaching."
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